How to Be a Pick up Artist: Build Comfort before Attraction

So many guys try to be Mr. Smooth with girls before ever building comfort with them. For a woman to begin feeling attracted to a man, she must first feel confortable with him. If a girl doesn’t feel comfortable around you, there’s no way you can keep a conversation going with her and there’s no way you can ever begin developing attraction with her. In order to make sure the girl actually wants to be around you, you have to make her feel comfortable with you. You want to engage a girl’s interest in a very safe, fun way. You don’t want to set off any red flags that you may be strange or creepy.

There are certain times that comfort is there already. When you’re introduced to a girl through a trusted group of friends, there is already some comfort there. If you’re in a class with a girl or work with a girl, there is already comfort there. This makes your job of “picking her up”, much easier. Comfort building is a key aspect in the art of attraction. Meeting women in pre-built comfortable situations is the easiest way to get a woman.

Getting too flirty or projecting sexual interest, it’s important to make a girl feel generally “okay” about being around you. To become a pickup artist, you need to look around for situations where comfort building will be easy. Pay attention to girls who may be smiling at you and look for positive body language. if a girl looks very cold and is exhibiting negative body language, it’ll be harder to build comfort with her (although there are tons of ways to do so).